Seek Help From Abuse

Good Morning America

How has your day been?

If your days isn't happy or peaceful because of abuse by an abusive individual in your life, then read this post. 

I am not an abused woman and I have never been abused in any way. I am not an abusive woman towards myself or others but because I have seen so many women being abused throughout my life, I felt I could help at least some women out  there with information on how to seek freedom from the hell they are living; then I have done the job I wanted to do...to make sure you are safe.

Abuse is abuse and I do not believe anyone should be abused in any way. So please read this post carefully and seek help. You are very precious in God's eyes and your purpose in life is not to be belittles, punched or treated as if you were nothing. 

You are a beautiful creation from the All Mighty and since you are HIS precious child you should be treated like a princess. A princess that is lovely in every way, a princess that has talents to teach others about your great mind and imagination, you are a lovely human being and your inner gifts need to be seen. So if you are abused in any way, please seek help and be happy.

Physical abuse is any intentional and unwanted contact with you or something close to your body. Sometimes abusive behavior does not cause pain or even leave a bruise, but it’s still unhealthy. Examples of physical abuse are:

• Scratching, punching, biting, strangling or kicking.
• Throwing something at you such as a phone, book, shoe or plate.
• Pulling your hair.
• Pushing or pulling you.
• Grabbing your clothing.
• Using a gun, knife, box cutter, bat, mace or other weapon.
• Smacking your bottom.
• Forcing you to have sex or perform a sexual act.
• Grabbing your face to make you look at them.
• Grabbing you to prevent you from leaving or to force you to go somewhere.

People call abuse of women different things:

• wife battering;
• wife assault;
• domestic violence;
• family violence;
• wife abuse/spousal abuse;
• woman abuse;
• physical or mental cruelty;
• violence against women; and
• assault.

Regardless of what it is called, abuse of women is an abuse of power, and it is wrong. It is not simply about not being able to handle anger or having problems with addictions. It is about a man's efforts to exert control in a relationship. Abuse can take many forms. It can be physical, sexual, verbal, financial, social, emotional, or psychological.

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Some forms of abuse are crimes

Acts that are offences under the Criminal Code include:

• sexual assault;
• child abuse;
• threats to harm;
• threats to kill;
• taking your pay cheque; and
• stalking or criminal harassment (creating fear by repeatedly following, communicating, or attempting to communicate with another person or any member of her family).

Does your partner or other significant person do this to you:

• Get jealous when you're around other people
• Make fun of you in front of your friends and family
• Destroy, or threaten to destroy, your possessions
• Praise you one minute and put you down the next
• Call you names or threaten you?
• Ignore you or not take you seriously?
• Make you choose between your friends/family and him?
• Blame you when things go wrong?
• Push you around or hit you?
• Threaten to take the children?
• Say abuse is wrong but hit the walls and yells at you?

Do you...

• Have to ask permission to spend money or go out?
• Feel isolated from friends, family, and activities?
• Have to make things right just for him?
• Have to do what he wants ... or else?
• Feel it's your fault when anything goes wrong?

Do you feel...

• Afraid to make decisions for fear of his reaction or anger?
• That you have to check in if you go anywhere?
• That he is trying to run your life?
• Afraid to tell him if you have a good time?
• That maybe all the terrible things he says about you are coming true or Happening?
• That you have to put your dreams and goals on hold?
• Afraid to express your own opinions or say 'no' to something?
• Trapped, unable to go out without his permission?
• Your joy in your life diminishing?
• Afraid to break up with or leave him?

If you answer 'yes' to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. You are not alone.

Escaping Physical Abuse

Start by learning that you are not alone. More than one in 10 high school students have already experienced some form of physical aggression from a dating partner, and many of these teens did not know what to do when it happened. If you are in a similar situation:

• Realize this behavior is wrong.
• Talk to an adult, friend or family member that you trust.
• Create a safety plan.
• Consider getting a restraining order.
• Do not accept or make excuses for your partner’s abusive behavior.
• Remember that physical abuse is never your fault.

Protecting Yourself from Physical Abuse

Unhealthy or abusive relationships usually get worse. It is important to know the warning signs to prevent more serious harm. If you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, consider making a safety plan. Chat with a peer advocate for more information.