Sunday, August 30, 2015

Great Household Tips

 Life can sure be a lot easier if we just take the time to seek for some great clever ideas that are out there. Check out these clever ideas to help our lives a bit much nicer. 

 Rubbing a walnut over scratches in your furniture will disguise dings and scrapes. 

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Remove crayon masterpieces from your TV or computer screen with WD40 (also works on walls).

Overhaul your linen cupboard – store bedlinen sets inside one of their own pillowcases and there will be no more hunting through piles for a match. 
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Pump up the volume by placing your iPhone / iPod in a bowl – the concave shape amplifies the music. 
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Re-use a wet-wipes container to store plastic bags. 

Add this item to your beach bag. Baby powder gets sand off your skin easily – who knew

Attach a velcro strip to the wall to store soft toys. 
 
Look up! Use wire to make a space to store gift wrap rolls against the ceiling, rather than cluttering up the floor. 
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.Gotcha! Find tiny lost items like earrings by putting a stocking over the vacuum hose. 

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Make an instant cupcake carrier by cutting crosses into a box lid. 

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.For those who can’t stand the scrunching and bunching: how to perfectly fold a fitted sheet. 
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.Forever losing your bathroom essentials? Use magnetic strips to store bobby pins (and tweezers and clippers) behind a vanity door 
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A tip for holiday packing. Store shoes inside shower caps to stop dirty soles rubbing on your clothes. And you can find them in just about every hotel! 
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A muffin pan becomes a craft caddy. Magnets hold the plastic cups down to make them tip-resistant. 
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.Bread tags make the perfect-sized cord labels. 
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.Bake cupcakes directly in ice-cream cones – so much more fun and easier for kids to eat. Definitely doing this! 
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.Microwave your own popcorn in a plain brown paper bag. Much healthier and cheaper than the packet stuff. 
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Brilliant space-saver: install a tension rod to hang your spray bottles. Genius! 

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

School Has Begun

Well, school has begun here in Ohio. And going to start a new year in school makes us focus on how we look. My oldest grand-daughter Paloma is now a sophomore in high school. We are very proud of her since she will not only begin a new year in high school but she will also be attending Bowling Green University. She was one of the kids chosen out of the entire school to attend Bowling Green University for the next two years which will allow her to receive her Associates degree at the same time she graduates from high school.. She will be tackling two schools at one time and with a 3.9 average grade point, she is very happy to do both schools.

These first two photos were taken 2 years ago...they are my before photos.

She has super curly hair and after having it blown dried she thought a photo looking like frizzy would be funny, she's a ham.


This is the curly hair after getting a good conditioning and ironing it...she liked her long hair but to her it was too much maintenance and Paloma does not like maintenance and too much primping...thank God for little sister's hair abilities, it came out smooth and soft.


And this is her hair and eyebrows now, hair is short and straight and now she has lovely sculptured eyebrows...at 16 years old she's all grown up.


with highlights


Second day of school with little sister Natalia means being funny and happy.



 And I even had a haircut. I had been pondering on taking my hair off since last Christmas and this last Friday I couldn't stand it anymore, so I grabbed my scissors and I took all my hair off. Here is a before photo that was taken this last June.


 and this is me now...short and sassy.



Tuesday, August 18, 2015

My Bad Tomato Harvest

Hi everyone,

Here in Ohio its a nice Summer day today with temps reaching the high 80's...it is truly hot out here. So since its so hot I am staying indoors with the ac in full blast.

This Summer I had a very bad harvest with my tomatoes. All my tomato plants got blossom rot and they all needed to be removed. I was very upset since I cared for these babies very well for the past 4 months. Now that my balcony has been cleaned out there is a lot of room to move around. 

Here is one of my three tomato plants...nice and green full of tomatoes with blossom rot...GRRRRR!


And this is what blossom rot looks like, brown rotten bottoms and these roma tomatoes were suppose to grow bigger, but they didn't grow any larger than this size...I was not a happy camper.


It was a very bad harvest.

Sunday, August 9, 2015

Aldi's Is Steppin' Up

Hi Everyone...

Its great here in Ohio. The weather is fabulous and I am so happy to see the sun shining.

I have been meaning to share this post with all my friends and those that are looking for a healthier alternative in snack items.

 Aldi's grocery store now carries organic fruits & vegetables aside from their regular fruits & veggies. And they also added two new brands called Van's & Simply Nature that are gluten free, dairy free products. Their crackers and chips are absolutely delicious.

There are 4 flavors of crackers but these are my favorite.


here is what's inside this box contents.





The chips are fabulous, in them are yams and other roots and veggies...check them out.






Now I can eat good crackers & chips...thank you Aldi.


Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Seek Help From Abuse

Good Morning America

How has your day been?

If your days isn't happy or peaceful because of abuse by an abusive individual in your life, then read this post. 

I am not an abused woman and I have never been abused in any way. I am not an abusive woman towards myself or others but because I have seen so many women being abused throughout my life, I felt I could help at least some women out  there with information on how to seek freedom from the hell they are living; then I have done the job I wanted to do...to make sure you are safe.

Abuse is abuse and I do not believe anyone should be abused in any way. So please read this post carefully and seek help. You are very precious in God's eyes and your purpose in life is not to be belittles, punched or treated as if you were nothing. 

You are a beautiful creation from the All Mighty and since you are HIS precious child you should be treated like a princess. A princess that is lovely in every way, a princess that has talents to teach others about your great mind and imagination, you are a lovely human being and your inner gifts need to be seen. So if you are abused in any way, please seek help and be happy.
Physical abuse is any intentional and unwanted contact with you or something close to your body. Sometimes abusive behavior does not cause pain or even leave a bruise, but it’s still unhealthy. Examples of physical abuse are:
  • Scratching, punching, biting, strangling or kicking.
  • Throwing something at you such as a phone, book, shoe or plate.
  • Pulling your hair.
  • Pushing or pulling you.
  • Grabbing your clothing.
  • Using a gun, knife, box cutter, bat, mace or other weapon.
  • Smacking your bottom.
  • Forcing you to have sex or perform a sexual act.
  • Grabbing your face to make you look at them.
  • Grabbing you to prevent you from leaving or to force you to go somewhere.
People call abuse of women different things:
  • wife battering;
  • wife assault;
  • domestic violence;
  • family violence;
  • wife abuse/spousal abuse;
  • woman abuse;
  • physical or mental cruelty;
  • violence against women; and
  • assault.
Regardless of what it is called, abuse of women is an abuse of power, and it is wrong. It is not simply about not being able to handle anger or having problems with addictions. It is about a man's efforts to exert control in a relationship. Abuse can take many forms. It can be physical, sexual, verbal, financial, social, emotional, or psychological.

Some forms of abuse are crimes
Acts that are offences under the Criminal Code include:
  • sexual assault;
  • child abuse;
  • threats to harm;
  • threats to kill;
  • taking your pay cheque; and
  • stalking or criminal harassment (creating fear by repeatedly following, communicating, or attempting to communicate with another person or any member of her family).

Does your partner or other significant person do this to you:
  • Get jealous when you're around other people
  • Make fun of you in front of your friends and family
  • Destroy, or threaten to destroy, your possessions
  • Praise you one minute and put you down the next
  • Call you names or threaten you?
  • Ignore you or not take you seriously?
  • Make you choose between your friends/family and him?
  • Blame you when things go wrong?
  • Push you around or hit you?
  • Threaten to take the children?
  • Say abuse is wrong but hit the walls and yells at you?
Do you...
  • Have to ask permission to spend money or go out?
  • Feel isolated from friends, family, and activities?
  • Have to make things right just for him?
  • Have to do what he wants ... or else?
  • Feel it's your fault when anything goes wrong?
Do you feel...
  • Afraid to make decisions for fear of his reaction or anger?
  • That you have to check in if you go anywhere?
  • That he is trying to run your life?
  • Afraid to tell him if you have a good time?
  • That maybe all the terrible things he says about you are coming true or Happening?
  • That you have to put your dreams and goals on hold?
  • Afraid to express your own opinions or say 'no' to something?
  • Trapped, unable to go out without his permission?
  • Your joy in your life diminishing?
  • Afraid to break up with or leave him?
If you answer 'yes' to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. You are not alone.

Escaping Physical Abuse

Start by learning that you are not alone. More than one in 10 high school students have already experienced some form of physical aggression from a dating partner, and many of these teens did not know what to do when it happened. If you are in a similar situation:
  • Realize this behavior is wrong.
  • Talk to an adult, friend or family member that you trust.
  • Create a safety plan.
  • Consider getting a restraining order.
  • Do not accept or make excuses for your partner’s abusive behavior.
  • Remember that physical abuse is never your fault.

Protecting Yourself from Physical Abuse

Unhealthy or abusive relationships usually get worse. It is important to know the warning signs to prevent more serious harm. If you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, consider making a safety planChat with a peer advocate for more information.

Sunday, July 12, 2015

Verbal Abuse is Abuse

Hello my friends.

 I will like to say that I have been studying many forms of abusive behavior throughout the past 20 years. This subject has always interest me and when I was in college I was debating whether to go into being a Marriage & Child Counselor or a Forensic doctor. I did not get to finish either one of these do to the fact that my babies were more important at that time than my education...but I did finish 2 years of college in Death  Dying.


Abuse comes in many forms but today I have chosen for my first post to speak about "VERBAL ABUSE"  behavior towards children by their parents."

I was never abused as a child and neither were my children but this subject really calls my attention because I do not believe or will ever stand for child abuse of any form. Read calmly and think twice if your tone of voice is hurting a child or those who you are to love unconditionally...your own children.

Yelling at Children 

Post 1. Verbal Abuse

By Benj Vardigan
We've all heard the adage, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me." Yet name-calling does hurt -- especially when the person doing it is a parent, a teacher, or a coach. Hollering might strike you as a natural and effective form of discipline if you were brought up with it. But for children it can cause emotional trauma that results in long-lasting harm.
Among other effects, verbal abuse can undermine your child's self-esteem, damage his ability to trust and form relationships, and chip away at academic and social skills. In fact, current research shows that verbal abuse of children can be just as destructive emotionally as physical and sexual abuse and puts them in as much risk for depression and anxiety.
What is verbal abuse?
You may be verbally abusing your child if you are doing any of the following:
  • Name-calling, belittling, swearing, insulting. ("You are stupid." "You're a rotten kid.")
  • Indirect criticism, such as disparaging your child to your spouse, also hurts. Just because you're not berating your child directly doesn't mean he doesn't hear it and feel the sting.
  • Rejecting or threatening with abandonment. ("I wish you'd never been born." "I should put you up for adoption.") This kind of verbal abuse creates a sense that your child isn't wanted in the family.
  • Threatening bodily harm. Studies have linked verbal aggression and physical aggression: A Harvard study found, for example, that "parents who yell frequently are the ones most likely to hit frequently, and vice versa." Even if you don't act on violent threats, they may make your child fear and distrust you.
  • Scapegoating or blaming. ("You're the reason this family is such a mess." "If I didn't have to take care of you, I could have a better life." "If you weren't so clumsy, your sister wouldn't have gotten hurt.") Your child will think he's a bad person who deserves to be unhappy.
  • Using sarcasm. Making a mocking remark, such as "Now that was smart" when he spills juice on the rug, might seem like a way to avoid direct criticism, but your child is perceptive enough to understand that you're demeaning him.
  • Berating your spouse. A study at the University of Maryland, Baltimore County, determined that children who see their parents verbally abusing each other are more likely to be depressed or anxious, and to experience more interpersonal problems of their own. Interestingly, the study also found that verbal aggression between parents was more traumatic to children than physical violence between parents.
How common is verbal abuse?
Reports are mixed. A study at the University of New Hampshire found that 63 percent of more than 3,000 American parents surveyed reported one or more cases of verbal aggression toward children in their homes. However, a Child Protective Services study determined that only 6 percent of all child abuse cases involved "emotional maltreatment" (of which verbal abuse is the most common form). The fact that signs of verbal abuse are harder to recognize and prove than signs of physical abuse may account for the seemingly low number of "official" verbal abuse cases.
What are signs that a child is suffering from verbal abuse?
  • Negative self-image. This is the most common and pervasive effect of verbal abuse. Your child may say things like, "I'm stupid," or "Nobody likes me." Or he may simply seem withdrawn, sullen, or depressed, all of which can be signs of a low self-image. In defining emotional abuse, the National Committee for the Prevention of Child Abuse says that it "attacks a child's... sense of self-worth."
  • Self-destructive acts. "Cutting" (using razor blades or knives to cut his own skin) and all forms of self-injury signal a problem, as do other reckless activities that put your child in danger.
  • Antisocial behavior. The New Hampshire study found that verbally abused children demonstrated higher rates of physical aggression, delinquency, and interpersonal problems. Your child may hit other children, frequently quarrel with his classmates, or be cruel to animals.
  • Delayed development. The slowdown may appear in your child's physical, social, academic, or emotional development. He may have difficulty making friends, fall behind in school, or engage in regressive acts such as rocking, thumb-sucking, and bed-wetting.
Does verbal abuse do any long-term harm?
Yes. Research shows that abused children are more likely to:
  • become victims of abuse later in life
  • become abusive themselves
  • become depressed and self-destructive later in life
  • develop anxiety
Why can't I seem to control my temper?
Most parents at some time find themselves feeling frustrated and angry with their children. Occasionally they say things they regret -- to their children, their spouses, or their friends. But if you find that you are routinely having angry outbursts or that whenever you're frustrated you lash out at those around you in the ways described above -- then you need to get help. (If you feel overwhelmed by your anger, you may want to consider getting help from a counselor, psychotherapist, or mental health professional trained in anger management.) Meanwhile, here are some ways to begin helping yourself.
To start getting a handle on your outbursts, try to understand the reasons behind your behavior. The following are some of the more common explanations for verbally abusive behavior:
  • a failure to understand that there are other ways to discipline and communicate with your child
  • the belief that verbal abuse is necessary as a form of "tough love"
  • an inability to control strong emotions
  • a history of verbal abuse by parents, teachers, and other adults
What can I do to avoid verbally abusing my child?
In moments of stress and anger, try to refrain from saying anything mean or sarcastic to your child. Remember, you're his main and most important role model. If you tend to fall apart, lose your cool, and act abusively at challenging times, you'll likely raise a child who does the same.
Here are some ways you can calm yourself down:
  • Take a "time-out." This method works as well for adults as it does for kids. If your child can be left alone, go to another room. If he's too young for that, try walking to the other end of the room. Then take a few slow, deep breaths, seeking to let go of the situation emotionally. Wait five minutes (or more if you need it) before talking to your child.
  • Try to deal only with the present rather than letting all the stressful incidents that have "piled up" overcome your emotions.
  • Share your feelings of resentment or anger with your spouse or a friend. Be sure to do this in private, where your child won't hear you and feel wounded by your words.
In addition, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends using what it calls the RETHINK method to bring your feelings under control. RETHINK stands for:
  • Recognize your feelings.
  • Empathize with your child.
  • Think of the situation differently. (Try using humor.)
  • Hear what your child is saying.
  • Integrate your love with your angry thoughts.
  • Notice your body's reactions to feeling anger and to calming down.
  • Keep your attention on the present problem.
A study at Colorado State University found that parents who participated in a six-week workshop based on this method became more effective at managing their anger.
What can I do to prevent someone else from verbally abusing my child or another child?
Always be aware of other influences on your child. Just because you have your temper under control doesn't mean that all the other adults in your child's life do.
Teachers, coaches, babysitters, siblings, older siblings of friends, and even other children's parents can harm your child by demeaning or humiliating him. Make a point of asking your child about his relationships with other adults. Of course, he might not tell you if someone is verbally abusing him -- he might not even realize it. So you'll want to be on the lookout for signs of emotional turmoil: Nightmares, bed-wetting, school phobia, and her signs of excessive anxiety may be part of the "code" you'll have to crack in order to figure out what's troubling your child.
If you feel that another adult is abusing your child or his or her own child, you can call the Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hot Line at (800) 422-4453, for advice. If you're certain of the problem, contact your local Child Protective Services (CPS) agency to report it. CPS professionals will evaluate the report, and if they deem it necessary, they will send someone out to talk with the alleged abuser. CPS will keep your report confidential, although you can make an anonymous report if you prefer. (But keep in mind that bogus anonymous reports are, unfortunately, quite common.)
Sometimes a family counselor or psychologist can assess your child for signs of verbal abuse. If you think the abuse is occurring at school, be sure to take your child to be evaluated by someone independent of the school.
Oftentimes your family doctor or pediatrician can help you with a referral. Do whatever is necessary to get your child away from the abuser -- if a PE coach is taunting him, for example, ask that he be placed in a different class. And be sure to make your concerns known to the principal, director, league officials, and so on.
What if I see a stranger verbally abusing a child in the supermarket or at the park?
Confronting a total stranger about parenting techniques is a touchy endeavor. There are many different ways of parenting, and an approach that seems abusive to you may not be seen that way by others. Be aware, too, that confronting a parent is liable to make her defensive and possibly more angry than she already is. However, if you feel strongly that the parent is harming her child, and you need to say something, it's best to take a subtle, even empathetic approach rather than delivering a challenge. Many child advocates believe that in a public setting distracting the "abuser" will at least partly defuse the immediate situation for the child in danger. Don't try to teach the parent, coach, or teacher how they "should" behave.
Saying something like, "It's hard to know what to do, isn't it?" might be a good way to get the parent to step back and rethink her behavior, or at least calm down.
Remember, you just want to shift the focus off the child. Although some people may feel that distracting the adult from taking her anger out on the child seems to condone such behavior, it's only an attempt to ease the turbulence of the moment. After all, a long-term solution is just not possible when you're dealing with a complete stranger in the middle of a grocery store.
Further Resources
National Child Abuse Hot Line
(800) 422-4453

National Data Archive on Child Abuse and Neglect

Elder Holland gave the best speech on abuse and I agree with all my heart.

Take a moment and listen to this spiritual message on abuse.



WARNING...Verbal abuse is abuse and it will become an everlasting damage to any child. 

Be careful of what you say to these angels... you may be damaging them for life.


Sunday, July 5, 2015

My Bedroom Got a New Look


After debating whether I should redo my bedroom, I finally did it and the work is still not completed.  I am currently working on my tall dresser and another wooden nail polish shelf. This is how it looks now, a shabby chic decor in soft creams and soft yellows.


This is my makeup corner


A girl needs lots of nail polish


and jewelry



soft candles




soft shabby chic pillows




and my new desk




Monday, June 29, 2015

Paying It Forward


In life there are so many ways in which we can share our love and our tender care with others.

I have been trying to share with others my love in a way others can benefit and pay it forward. Since at Aldi's grocery store you have to pay a quarter to use their carts,
I have asked the person I pass the cart to when I am done with it to please pay it forward to someone else. I also ask them to remind the person they pass the cart to-to also pay it forward with the next person.

I know that at the end of the day someone will end up taking my quarter home when they return the cart to the store, but in the long run that cart saved many people a quarter. It may seem like a small way to help others, but for me it sure makes me feel good knowing somehow I help, shared the love and I paid it forward. 


Sunday, June 21, 2015

What a Celebration

90 years old and still kicking...

Surprise, Surprise Aunt Felicia.

At the golden age of 90 she is still going strong. This lady is a trooper. She raised 13 children and a few she baby sat for extra money added the group to 15 kids at once. She did it all and never complained. So it was more than a joy to celebrate her 90th birthday with 11 of her children, family and friends who flew in from various parts of the states. 
Take a look at all the photos.

What a surprise, she was shocked.


Photographed with s few of her grandchildren.


Photos with 8 of her boys 
 

Great grand-children


Her remaining 11 children


3 of her daughters...1 is deceased.







Here are some photos of me and some of my cousins.











My aunt and her husband on their 50th anniversary many years ago.